By Kiera Carney
(TW) Trigger Warning: Please note, this post contains discussion of sexual trauma.
In the dating world, it is not unlikely that you may have a partner who has been sexually assaulted. Internationally, roughly 736 million women have been victims of sexual violence. Those who have experienced sexual trauma are very likely to have a harder time successfully navigating a relationship, whether it is communication, triggers, or support. It shouldn’t be completely on the victim to accommodate these barriers that are unfairly placed in the way of their pursuit of emotional and physical intimacy. It is important for a partner to understand what it means to date someone who has had these types of experiences, and learn how to be cognizant of the effects they may experience.
As someone who has experienced sexual assault, I, like many others, have found it difficult to feel validated from partners that I’ve had after the assault. Although it is a fact that assault is never the victim’s fault and there is no excuse for assault, it is not always easy to feel that way, and survivors will sometimes worry that they are to blame. Personally, I think that the most important thing an intimate partner can do is to make sure that their partner is feeling emotionally validated and that, although they can’t fully know what they went through was like, they believe them and are unconditionally there for them. To do so, it is important to allow the survivor to open up at their own pace, and to actively listen when they approach the conversation.
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