Damaged Goods: how virginity is equated to morality

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By Alexandria Arritt

Samantha Pugsley is one of many women who waited until marriage to have sex and regretted it. When Samantha was 10 she took a pledge at her church to remain a virgin until marriage. She recited this vow along with a group of other girls, “Believing that true love waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, my friends, my future mate and my future children to be sexually abstinent from this day until the day I enter a biblical marriage relationship. As well as abstaining from sexual thoughts, sexual touching, pornography, and actions that are known to lead to sexual arousal.” Samantha recounts her wedding night and writes that what her parents and church leaders didn’t tell her is that she would be crying on her honeymoon because she felt dirty and sinful.

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“Tomboy” Needs to Go

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By Alexandria Arritt

Gendering begins at birth. Infant girls go home in pink blankets, and boys go home in blue blankets. In a recent study, researchers found that people responded to the cries of babies differently based on the pitch. Those who participated in the study believed higher pitched cries to be the girls and the lower pitched cries to be the boys. Although the pitch of a child’s voice does not begin to change until puberty. No participant could correctly guess the gender of the children based on the pitch of their cries.

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Why I Love The Women’s Center

by Stacy Boe Miller

Students marching down steps carrying signs that say Take Back the Night
Photo from Women’s Center Facebook Page

It is Friday at noon, and I am sitting in the lounge of the Women’s Center munching on cheese and crackers and trying my best to paint something Frida Khalo like onto a small canvas. It is Latinx Heritage Month, and the table is covered with books featuring the art of Khalo. I look around at the people also painting, looking through books of art, laughing about classes and talking about their plans for the weekend. The room is filled with people of all kinds: students, staff, gender non-conforming, various queer identities, straight males and females, a pregnant staff member joking that she is just going to eat all the snacks and not even paint. A student speaks of her immigrant parents, “My parents wanted to name me something that sounded white, so they watched a lot of movies from the US when my mom was pregnant.” We all laugh. My kids are in school, but if they weren’t they would be welcome as well to come and participate or to pull out the toys and coloring books from the Women’s Center library. It’s just another Friday Crafternoon at the Women’s Center, but it’s really more than that. It’s a reminder that despite your sexual orientation, your gender identification, the country you or your parents come from, your place on campus or in society, tucked in Memorial Gym there is a safe and welcoming space for you. Continue reading “Why I Love The Women’s Center”

Boy Scouts are Now Accepting Girls

Young boys and girls cheering in excitement.
Scouts cheering in excitement. (Photo Credit: Getty Images)

By Lindsey Heflin 

On Wednesday, Oct. 11, also known as the International Day of the Girl Child day, the Boy Scouts of America announced that they were breaking tradition and for the first time in the organization’s history, they would allow girls into the program.

The Boy Scouts national board chairman, Randall Stephenson said, “I’ve seen nothing that develops leadership skills and discipline like this organization. It is time to make these outstanding leadership development programs available to girls.”

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Breakfast with Buzzfeed

Anne Helen Petersen and I, both blonde haired with blue eyes, pose for a picture as we smile.
Anne Helen Petersen and I pose for a picture after breakfast.

By Alexandria Arritt

Friday morning begins with a cup of coffee for each student sitting around a table in commons building of the university. Anne Helen Petersen arrives and sits in the seat next to me. Anne Helen Petersen is a senior Buzzfeed writer, originally from Lewiston, Idaho. English majors, such as myself, had the opportunity to speak with Anne about her career and life in the world of media. The first question Anne is asked is regarding her journey to Buzzfeed. Anne received her undergraduate degree at Whitman College in Walla Walla, Washington. She wanted to move as far away from Idaho as possible, but Whitman felt like home. After graduation, she moved to Seattle with her college best friends and went on to get her Masters at University of Oregon. Anne completed her education with a PhD in Texas. Later, Anne was offered a job back at Whitman to teach film studies. She was originally unaware that it was a “visiting” position, a temporary position offered as the college tests out a new program. The permanent job was offered to another candidate that had global experience in film studies.

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The Pressure of Perfection

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A female college graduate of Bryn Mawr College

By Samragyee Gautam

Growing up, many of us have some kind of fantasy/concerns  about what kind of student we want to be in college. Whether you are a man or a woman, that transition from high school to college can be challenging, especially because of all the expectations from parents, family, and society in general. Presently for a girl born in 21st century, the scenario is even more complicated. Because the way women are seen or expected to be seen is changing. But whatever the case is, no matter the time, there has always been a pressure for girls.  A Pressure for Perfection.

Men have a lot of pressure to deal with as well. I am not saying they are free of responsibilities, but I would argue that men are comparatively more privileged than most of the females out there. This can affect the learning environment for women in college campuses. From the pressure of having the best grades to rocking the perfect outfit, most of us girls have some common insecurities. But should I call it our insecurity? Or maybe, it an attempt to gain some kind of validation from men or even other women in general! Continue reading “The Pressure of Perfection”

Every Part of Me Needs Feminism

A black and white photo from the 1960s depicting a lesbian feminist march. Walkers are holding signs that say "Lesbian Feminist Liberation" and "Gays of America United We Stand."
Lesbian feminism rose to prominence during the 1960s and continues to include womyn of various sexual identities in the feminist narrative

By Rosemary Anderson 

“I love you, but I still think you’re a sinner.”

The oh-too-familiar phrase I hear at events such as family gatherings, Christmas parties, coffee dates with friends, and (my personal favorite) college graduations. Somehow no matter where I go or what I do, my accomplishments are tainted by my sexuality. I can’t just be an educated young woman. I have to be an educated young woman, BUT a lesbian. A loving and thoughtful friend, BUT a lesbian. A shopper at a grocery store, BUT a lesbian.

Even though I’m attached to and love that label dearly for all it has represented in my life, it’s demeaning when I hear friends, family, and strangers use it as an exception to who I am as a human being.

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