By Beatrice Santiago
So here is the thing…
I am single and loving it!!
I don’t need to be in a romantic relationship to celebrate this Valentine’s day. Instead I will be celebrating this year’s Valentine’s with two of my closest friends I have made since coming to college. How are we celebrating? By getting a piercing and watching our favorite show. Insert smiling emoji here * We also are probably getting or making dinner at the end the day and, of course, do some more homework. What is a life of a college student without some homework? I am content with that. I get to be with my little family away from home.
I am also celebrating my self-love.
Because, what is better than showing some love to myself? I don’t need anyone by my side telling how me how much they love me when I got me. To all my single ladies out there–put your hands up! You’re amazing! Remind yourself that you are hardworking, beautiful, and capable of doing anything–All on your own!! Look at yourself in the mirror and just look at how beautiful you are.
Because, you are your own person. There is no one quite like you. So unique. That is what makes you beautiful. Therefore, on this special day I will be pampering myself. Which will probably consist of: face masks, a shopping spree (on a budget), and reading a chapter of a book I have just started. Small things like this can make a Valentine’s day pretty perfect. I don’t necessarily think it has to be something expensive or out of this world to make Valentine’s Day very special.
Also, I am at a point in my life where I value being single. I will never get these years back. I am young and in a point of my life where I need to love myself first, before I can offer that love to someone else. I get to learn about what makes me truly happy and what doesn’t.
Also, I am a point in my life where I value being single. I will never get these years back. I am young and in a point of my life where I need to love myself first, before I can offer that love to someone else. I get to learn about what makes me truly happy and what doesn’t. It okay to not be in a relationship.
It is okay to not be in a relationship.
Yes, I have friends that are in one and I do feel like I should be in one, sometimes. But, then I ask myself, “Why?” Because society expects you to be in a relationship? Then, I tell myself it’s okay not to be in one. Whether you are in your early 20s or late 50s, there is no “right time” to be in a relationship. That is all up to you. And yes, I am picky. (I think this is totally okay as well.) This enables me to at least know what I what in a relationship, before I start an unhealthy one. It is also a blessing to learn from your past relationships and grow from them. What matters here is that it is done in your own time and at your own pace. Most importantly, that you are happy with what is happening in that relationship.
I definitely think Valentine’s day is a special celebration in which (whether you are in a relationship or not) you reflect on yourself and where you are. Cheers to you if you have that special someone next to you! But don’t be sad if you’re single
To my future partner:
All of what I just said above is preparing me to be ready to have a good relationship with you! I know that you might be wondering why but this is the way I can be able to completely learn to care and love for you. Because I need to love myself first and to know my worth. Then you will see how I love myself so much that I want to be able to share that love with you.
I don’t know where you are and how we will meet but I do hope that we learn to care for each other that will helps us grow and support our foundation of our beliefs and that you will understand how much I care about feminism. If you don’t that you will allow me to teach you what I know about certain issues and that the ones we don’t understand that we will learn together. I hope you are well where ever that may be.
That person will eventually come, but as of now celebrate that you’re single and you’re you!
LOVE, LOVE, yourself and dedicate to yourself a song that will lift your spirits up and make you happy!
SINGLE on Valentine’s Day is awesome!
Are you not sure what to do for this Valentine’s Day? Well, I found this cool website that gives out a few ideas for what to do on this day–From pampering yourself at the spa to watching your favorite comedy show.