Something individuals rarely do, but it is of great importance…
Up for the challenge?
Try to understand a different perspective — look through the eyes of an anti-feminist.
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, feminism is defined as “the theory of political, economic and social equality of the sexes.” However, some women don’t consider themselves feminists. In fact, there is a website called womenagainstfeminism.com dedicated to expressing anti-feminist views. According to a national survey by the Washington Post and Kaiser Family Foundation, six in ten women and one third of men consider themselves a feminist or strong feminist. About seven in ten people said they thought the movement was empowering.
However, four in ten Americans said the movement is angry and unfairly blames men for women’s challenges. A writer on womenagainstfeminism.com explains, “modern-day feminism has taken a different path that I cannot relate to.”
So here is the challenge — Let’s try to understand this perspective. Take a moment with me to look through the eyes of an anti-feminist.
I am not a particular kind of woman. My thoughts and ideas on issues vary all the time; I have interests all over the place; I can’t be placed into any kind of box. This isn’t because I’m not steadfast in my ideas and my values or because I don’t have a definitive personality, but because I am a complex person in a complex world (that sounds kind of high and mighty in a weird way but I don’t mean it like that). What I’m saying is this: I don’t think everything is always black and white, right or wrong. I don’t think that because something has always been one way or because a lot of people believe something that it is the right thing to believe in. Continue reading “I am an “Out of the Box” Feminist”→
I’m taking a class on Women and Poetry, and while it is by far my favorite class, it’s also made me feel like a bit of a failure in terms of both poetry and feminism.
I’ve been working on an essay analyzing June Jordan’s poem, “Case in Point,” while also reading Sylvia Plath’s Ariel; both poets were highly influential in making a name for women’s poetry. Their confessional styles were often mocked and not taken seriously, but these are the poems that got them noticed, and more importantly, got them noticed as three-dimensional, subjective human beings. Their poetry allowed all women to step out of the univocal space they had been given, and into their multitudes.
Helping friends out with tasks ranging from moving, relationship advice, and even sending notes or texts when one’s sick is a great act of kindness. Yet helping a friend out one-time may turn into many times. Saying yes to others is all fine and well, but what happens when it is all we can say? I am guilty of saying yes and being a people pleaser. I am afraid of saying no and having the person be upset; so saying yes seems like the best response. Just last week I fell into the trap of people pleasing and saying yes.
Last Wednesday evening I helped a friend handle a family situation, it ended up making me feel great to help, but also hard to take care of myself as well. I felt as though to make everyone around me stay happy, I had to repress my feelings and try to push away it all and be happy. It was not easy; the very act of trying to be okay brought me to tears. I felt everything that I was doing, getting good grades, always being around even when I am not able and so on, I was doing for others. Being a people pleaser is emotionally, mentally, and physically a challenge and I did not realize this until all the stress of people pleasing and saying yes hit me in one go.