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By: Madelyn Starritt

I am a kind feminist. Yeah, this means I think of myself as a kind person who cares. It also means I think we should all practice kindness in all aspects of our lives.

We don’t have to be mean or attack others to achieve our own goals. The word fight is often used when we are talking about equal rights and feminist issues but we can still fight with kindness. To me, feminism is not bringing others down who disagree with you but being inclusive and accepting everyone for who they are. It is about equal rights for everyone and this will not be accomplished if we keep bringing each other down and attacking those who disagree with us.

This doesn’t mean we all should agree but we can disagree with kindness and civility and have educated debate instead of screaming matches. Besides, when has yelling that you are right and ignoring everyone else ever accomplished anything?

When Donald Trump was elected President many, many people were unhappy and ever since then I have seen so much hate from all types of people. Many people were saying “not my president” and “fuck trump” the minute he was elected without even giving him a chance. Others were telling people that their legitimate concerns are invalid and should not be expressed because they didn’t have the same views.

This is not my feminism.

Many don’t seem to understand this but we can be civil and nice to each other even if we disagree. We can support and fight for our own causes without bringing others down. We can even support many different causes and want equal rights for many different people. It doesn’t have to be one or the other.

We can achieve our goals with kindness instead of hate. We can be respectful of each other and support each other.

This is my feminism.

Spreading love and kindness through our actions and words. Making the future a better place for everyone in it. Supporting women, men, and every gender in between. Supporting religious freedom and gay marriage.

Our words and actions have an impact on every person we come across. We may not realize it and it may be small or large but it is there. We influence many with our language and how we act toward others.

Feminism is not about hating men; it is about loving everyone. It is about loving yourself.  Feminism is about equality.

I am a kind feminist because I believe all people deserve to be treated with respect. I believe that all people have a right to live, to marry, to worship who they want. I believe that we can solve our issues without aggression or name calling. I believe that we should radiate kindness and love to others even if they are not kind to us. Like stated in this poem by Rupi Kaur.


How is it so easy for you

To be kind to people he asked


Milk and honey dripped

From my lips as I answered


Cause people have not

Been kind to me


-Rupi Kaur


We do not have to bring others down just to make ourselves feel better. Our own beliefs and opinions are not better or stronger if we shame those of others. We are not superior or better if we make others feel small. The only person we should try to better than is ourselves.

There are mean people in this world that will disregard all others to put themselves ahead. People that will make others feel small so they can be big. People that will be rude and shame us because we disagree. We don’t have to be these people. We can be better by showing kindness instead of hate. We don’t have to be cruel to others because they were cruel to us. Things will not change if we keep spreading this cycle of hate. We should rise above and show that we are more than the things people call us.

We should be building each other up instead of tearing each other down. Feminism is about celebrating our differences instead of shaming because of them. It is about supporting each other in the battle for equal rights for everyone. A battle that should be fought with kindness.

I encourage everyone to try to be a little kinder. To think twice before calling a woman a bitch, or a man a pussy. To try to understand one another instead of attack each other. To think about the impact of our words and actions on others. To bring each other up instead of tear each other down.

I am a kind feminist. You can be too.



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