Welcome to Sex Talk with Nick, your weekly dose of pleasure. I’m here to give you an educational insight into the world of sex. This week, we are going to discuss sex toys and how they can help improve your sex life.
Sex toys are any device or object that is designed, sold, or used for enhancing sexual pleasure.
“Vibrators have always been my favorite,” said Brittney, straight, 26, sexually active. The ways in which they move and how they lightly massage my clitoris gives me an amazing orgasm.”
According to the article, Technology of Orgasm: “Hysteria,” the Vibrator, and Women’s Sexual Satisfaction, the first electrical vibrator was a 40-pound contraption that required two people to operate it. It was used by a British M.D. to treat “female hysteria.” The doctor used the tool to bring nervous or stressed women to orgasm. A few years later, take-home versions were created.
“My vibrator is so special that it has a name,” said Christy, straight, 23, sexually active. “It’s called “Baby Smurf” because it’s blue and small, yet mighty.”
Sex toys vary from person to person and many have a favorite that gives them the most pleasure. There are so many sex toys that have been created, there is no way to list them all here, but here are a few that you can use to spice things up in the bedroom.
A vibrating bullet is versatile and can be used with your partner or by yourself. Not only does it help you orgasm, but it happens to be one of the more moderately priced sex toys out there. A non-threatening bullet suits even the tamest of couples and works via a remote control connected to a thin cord. Depending on what kind of mood you’re in, you can adjust the pleasure intensity and vibration. Along with being small, it is also easy to clean.
“I use the silver bullet for my prostate,” said Craig, straight, 25, sexually active. “The vibrations that come from the bullet help my penis get hard. It also gives so much pleasure that I have a more intense orgasm.
If you are interested in being dominated or dominating your partner, handcuffs are a great way to figure out what you like when it comes to bondage. They are a reasonably mainstream accessory, and can be used during foreplay or for intercourse itself.
Huge dildoes can be intimidating, so make sure you start small when introducing a sex toy into your relationship. An unassuming “Pocket Rocket” is small enough to turn you on, but not big enough to turn your partner off. The vibrations are just as strong as larger vibrators, but without the “wow, we’re using a sex toy” realization. Use it to stimulate yourself or let your partner take the lead.
There are many types of lubricants and oils available that can enhance your sexual pleasure, depending on what you’re trying to achieve. Warming lubricants and scented oils are just two of the many options that can take a regular sexual experience to the next level. Remember to always use a lubricant that is compatible with your sex toy to avoid damaging it. For those looking for something out of the ordinary, try a flavored water-based lubricant to enhance oral sex.
Vibrating Penis Ring:
Many women have trouble reaching orgasm from sex alone, and a vibrating penis ring can help with that. A penis ring is an O-shaped ring that fits around the shaft restricting blood flow. It can result in harder erections, longer lasting erections, and a whole bunch of new sensations. The vibrating ring can be directed at the testicles or the woman’s clitoris for extra stimulation.
“I think that whether you’re in a relationship or not, sex toys are a great way to relieve stress and be able to have fun without risking sexual diseases or pregnancy,” said Hannah, straight, 21, sexually active. “I use a g-spot vibrator, silver bullet, and when I am in a relationship, I suggest a cock ring.”
According to the book, The Many Joys of Sex Toys: The Ultimate How-To Handbook for Couples and Singles, the Rabbit (a popular dildo) originated in Japan, where it was against the law to create a sex toy that resembled a penis, so they decided to make it look like an bunny rabbit instead.
Among members of the gay community, sex toys are also very common for pleasure yourself solo or for having wild sex with your partner. Below are a few that are commonly use or are very popular.
Anal dildos come in different colors, shapes, and sizes, and they bring a intense satisfaction for gay and straight individuals looking to explore the pleasure of anal play for the first time.
This intense butt plug is firm, yet stretchy. It warms to your body temperature, and it is firm enough to keep you ready for action.
Anal beads are smooth, spherical, easy to insert, and easy to clean. They can turn an orgasm into an amazing sensation, but it is important to lather them up with lube before applying. Always remember to have fun, because without fun, what’s the point?
So, as you can see sex can be so many things. We are all human beings, we are equal (or should be), and we all have ways of finding and acting on certain pleasures. There is no right and no wrong to sex, just a diverse pool of pleasures. The more open-minded we are to sex, the more we are going to learn about it throughout the rest of our lives, but remember–safety first.
Happy Pleasuring! ❤