Sex Talk With Nick: Tasty Threesomes

Nick Dimico

Welcome to Sex Talk with Nick, your weekly dose of pleasure. I’m here to give you an educational insight into the world of sex. This week we are going to discuss the diversity in threesomes and how you can make your threesome a more successful experience.

A threesome is a form of group sex involving three people. They can be found in long-term relationships and may occur more frequently in private situations, such as spontaneous sexual activity among three friends, arranged with like-minded swingers, or planned as a one-time-only experience.

“Threesomes have always been a great experience for my partner and I to receive pleasure,” said Sherri, straight, 21, sexually active. “We consider ourselves to be a “straight couple,” but we love to switch back and forth from a man and a woman to gain a new pleasurable experience. For example, my partner will sometimes have anal with the man that we are having sex with to have something different. Some people think it’s weird and many judge us, but it’s our lives.”

Fantasizing about threesomes is completely normal, as threesomes are one of the most common sexual fantasies for both men and women of all sexual orientations. But, while the fantasy of a threesome might be incredibly arousing, the reality of it can be a bit tricky.

“I have always fantasized about having a threesome,” said, Eric, bisexual, 25, sexually active. “But, it’s so hard to find someone who is actually open to the idea of doing it. I’m a very sexual person, and I just want to experience something new. Some days I feel like I should just keep that fantasy to myself instead of trying to make it happen.”

Acting on the fantasy of a threesome can be very difficult, because many people are afraid they may be judged or turned down. This is very common, but understanding that there are many others who like the idea of a threesome can help you achieve happiness as well as pleasure.

Threesomes are very much about the experience of multiple people at one time, and they have great potential for all involved.

Variety:

Having three mouths, six hands and three sets of genitals can offer extreme pleasure. Specific combinations usually depend on the genitals involved and the boundaries of each particular person in the threesome.

Being Desired Times Two:

If having sex with one person is confirmation of your desirability and sensuality, being sexual with two people could make you weak in the knees. It can be very thrilling to turn on not just one, but two people.

Seeing Your Lover Pleasured By Others: 

Threesomes can give you the opportunity to see your partner with someone else, and this encourages you to see your partner in a different way. While it’s not a solution for a relationship that has gone stale, threesomes can re-stimulate a successful but complacent relationship and renew your love for each other.

Same Sex Experiences:

For many people, a threesome is a safe way to explore what it’s like to share erotic energy with someone of the same sex or opposite sex. For many straight people, a threesome is the first place they experience same-sex erotic contact. This can be incredibly thrilling and liberating; many people who think they won’t enjoy a person of the same-sex discover that there is, in fact, a lot of potential for pleasure.

“I had a threesome with a woman,” said Travis, gay, 28, sexually active. “For me this was a brand new experience to have pleasure with a woman, but my boyfriend is bisexual so I said ‘Why not?’ Even though it wasn’t my ideal situation, it was a new experience for me to try and I had a great time.”

When it comes to threesomes, choosing the right partner, being inclusive to everyone involved, and being safe is extremely important for successful pleasure.

Choose Your Partners Wisely: 

Some people wonder if they should have a threesome with a friend or a stranger. There are pros and cons to each. Strangers provide less emotional attachment, but a higher risk for personal safety. Inviting a friend into a threesome can be more emotionally involved, but can also feel safer. Threesomes with an ex-lover or your best friend can be a bad idea, and the emotional risks are far too great. For most people, the best choice is someone you know and trust, but who doesn’t play an important role in your life.

Be Excited! Be Inclusive:

Make sure everyone involved is feeling pleasured by everyone else in the threesome. This is important if sexual orientation is an issue. The same-sex contact in any given threesome can range from very little physical contact, to full lovemaking and penetration. But the “no-touch between us guys; we are just here for the woman” threesomes tend to fail. If you are so worried about not touching someone, you probably shouldn’t do a threesome together. Success of your threesome depends on your attitude; make sure everyone has an open-mind. Discuss everything ahead of time, so expectations are clear and boundaries are established before beginning.

Stay Safe: 

Safe sex is always essential, but if you are bringing a new partner into an established relationship, you will want make sure you are practicing sex. You won’t be able to relax and enjoy yourself if you are worried about contracting a disease or an unwanted pregnancy. Make sure all three of you are on the same page about safe sex, and have extra condoms and dental dams, as you may go through a lot during the threesome.

So, as you can see sex can be so many things. We are all human beings, we are equal (or should be), and we all have ways of finding and acting on certain pleasures. There is no right and no wrong to sex, just a diversity pool of pleasures. The more open-minded we are to sex the more we are going to learn about it throughout the rest of our lives, but remember safety first.

Happy Pleasuring! ❤

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