Sex Talk With Nick: Picking Positions

Nick Dimico

Welcome to Sex Talk with Nick, your weekly dose of pleasure. I’m here to give you an educational insight into the world of sex. This week, we are going to discuss a variety of sex positions and what some people prefer for pleasure.

When it comes to positions, many people have preferences as to the position in which their body is pleasured.

Sex positions are positions that people may adopt during or for the purpose of sexual intercourse or other sexual activities. Sexual acts are generally described by the positions the participants adopt in order to perform those acts. Though sexual intercourse generally involves the penetration of the body of one person by another or direct stimulation of the sex organ of one by another, a sex position may not necessarily involve penetration or direct stimulation.

“The positions I like for sexual activity vary among what I feel comfortable with, as well as what types of sex I am having, whether it be oral or penetration,” said Ryan, bisexual, 23, sexually active. “If I am having oral sex, I love to be in the 69 position, as it is the most comfortable for me. If I am having vaginal or anal penetration, I would rather have reverse cowgirl, missionary, or doggy style.”

Although some like to be pleasured in certain ways, others are more willing to try anything.

“I’m very open-minded when it comes to sex positions,” said Ashley, straight, 22, sexually active. “I feel my concern rests with whether or not my partner and I are compatible for one another during sexual activities.”

With so many positions available to use when participating in sexual activities, it’s hard to name them all, but below are some of the most commonly used positions among straight and gay communities.

1. Sexy Spooning

This sex position starts off being very intimate as you snuggle and spoon one another. To assume the position, the male or female partner will lie on their side with their male partner close up behind them. Men can snuggle, hug, or use their hands to gently stimulate their partner. Rather than moving in and out, the man should stay inside his partner, using gentle rocking motions while providing consistent stimulation.

2. Doggy Style

Doggy style is great for both men and women as far as pleasure, but is less intimate than some of the other positions. Doggy style allows for deep penetration, with the male partner kneeling behind their male or female partner who is on all fours. In the gay community, this position is used often when engaging in anal penetration.

3. Reverse Cowgirl

Reverse cowgirl is achieved when the male or female partner is seated on top of and facing away from the male partner who is lying on his back in the prone position.

4. Missionary

Probably the most well-known sex position is the missionary position. In this position, one male or female partner lies on their back  and the male partner on top is the one doing most of the work. When the male or female partner on the bottom alters the position of their legs and the angle of their body, the varying depth of penetration can provide different sensations for both until ultimate pleasure is received.

5. Seated Wheelbarrow

This position is just as it sounds, resembling the propelling of a wheelbarrow. The male partner sits on the edge of a chair, bed or anywhere else the male or female partner can reach the floor with their hands while straddling him backwards. This position does require some upper body strength for the male or female partner being penetrated, since they will be holding themselves up and using their arms for some of the sexual activity.

While many people love to use a wide rage of positions, sometimes it depends on the location you’re in.

“The right position depends on two things,” said Christine, straight, 23, sexually active. “It’s the amount of space you have, and the size of the guy’s penis.”

For others, space is not an issue as they feel sex is feasible in any location.

“I can have sex anywhere,” said Jake, straight, 25, sexually active. “I have no problems in achieving an orgasm anywhere I go.”

Even though some people are very experienced in the field of sex positions, some know nothing about them.

“I have little to no experience in the world of sex positions,” said Amanda, straight, 23, sexually active. “I just don’t know what they are or how to use them.”

Experimentation is completely normal for those who are just beginning or wanting to learn more about sex positions, and for seasoned “sexperts.”

So, as you can see, sex can be so many things. We are all human beings, we are equal (or should be), and we all have ways of finding and acting on certain pleasures. There is no right and no wrong to sex, just a diversity pool of pleasures. The more open-minded we are to sex, the more we are going to learn about it throughout the rest of our lives, but remember–safety first.

Happy Pleasuring! ❤


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